Search settings: Successfully filter for the right partner
You've worked hard on your profile, and now you're finally ready to be found. But you should definitely take action yourself, because ultimately you want to find the right partner—and that's easy with the LemonSwan search function. We'll show you how you can increase your chances of finding a partner by using the right search settings.
Good filtering is half the battle: 3 helpful tips for using search settings
Your individual search settings determine in seconds who will be suggested to you—and who you will get to know. That's why it's important to proceed with caution and consider various factors. We have compiled the most important tips for you here.
1. Experiment with your search settings
Be bold and experiment with your search settings in as much detail as possible. You have full control over various factors, and depending on what you specify, unexpected possibilities may open up. Take advantage of this opportunity and try everything out. And above all: don't give up too quickly.
2. Filter according to criteria that are particularly important to you
Are some criteria non-negotiable for you, such as wanting children or smoking habits? You have the option of setting your search so that only potential partners with the same ideas about these or other topics are displayed. So think carefully about the criteria that are most important to you and set your search accordingly.
3. Stay flexible with your search settings
While you're at it, all that clicking and selecting can quickly tempt you to only show the supposedly best candidates. Your dream partner should definitely be a non-smoker, want exactly three children, be between 5'10“ and 6'0” tall, have dark blue eyes, and meet many other conditions.
The problem with this? Too many filters will inevitably lead to far too few or even no suggestions being displayed. In addition, it is entirely possible that someone who deviates from your expectations will still appeal to you. So limit yourself to the really important presets and remain flexible with the rest.
With these 4 tips, you can always keep track of your partner suggestions
You've carefully adjusted your search settings, clicked on Search, and in the next moment you're overwhelmed by a long list of singles just waiting to be discovered. Still too confusing? To help you keep track of all the many suggestions, it's best to follow these tips:
1. Pay attention to matching points
Going through each profile individually is a lot of work. That's why our personality test has already done a lot of the work for you – and shows you the matching points as a guide. The higher the number, the greater the likelihood that the candidate is actually a good match for you. In this case, it's definitely worth clicking.
2. Be flexible when looking for a partner
People who are consciously looking for a partner often have a clear idea of what their future partner should be like. This is a good thing and helps you filter your search settings. Nevertheless, it's worth taking a second look at this step: just because the job description doesn't match your expectations or the person doesn't share a particular interest, it doesn't necessarily mean that you two couldn't be on the same wavelength.
So think in advance about the aspects you are not willing to compromise on and keep this list as short as possible. You can then be particularly consistent with your no-gos—and take everything else as it comes.
3. Give inconspicuous profiles a chance
Face to face, your counterpart might be able to compensate for minor flaws with charisma or a good sense of humor. However, this option is usually not available online, and so it can happen that interesting candidates fall through the cracks even though they would have been a great fit for you.
It is almost impossible to create an online profile that reflects you 100%. We humans are too complex for that. The same applies to photos. Hardly any of them will be able to express all your facets. You should therefore be generous when evaluating profiles so that you don't accidentally click away your dream partner.
4. Change your search settings
If your search returns too many or too few suggestions, it is best to go back to the search settings and adjust them accordingly.
If the selection is too small, remove secondary criteria or perhaps be a little more generous with factors such as age and height. If, on the other hand, too many singles are displayed at once, consider further narrowing your search.
Just be patient! – Why you shouldn't throw in the towel right away
A few clicks and keystrokes, enter your search criteria, find a partner, done – when it comes to online dating, some people tend to have rather unrealistic expectations. Our modern internet habits sometimes lead to a real shopping mentality that demands immediate results. The problem with this is that Looking for a partner online sometimes requires just as much patience as looking for a partner in person. If you don't give yourself enough time, you could miss out on a lot.
Give your counterpart enough time to respond
If your intended contact doesn't get back to you within two or three days, it can sometimes be tempting to delete them immediately. After all, that's better than getting rejected, right?
Not quite. There could be many different reasons why you don't receive an immediate response. Perhaps this member is simply busy or wants to take more time to reply. If you pull the plug too quickly, you'll never know. It's better to give the other person at least a week or two before removing them from your list. Until then, you can sit back, relax, and wait.
Take a break if you need some distance
Is all the smiling, typing, and waiting starting to wear you down? If you feel like you need a little distance, take a few days off. Spend time with friends, write in your journal, or try flirting at a bar: anything that takes your mind off things can give you fresh momentum to continue your search. If you take breaks regularly, it will be easier for you to maintain your enthusiasm for online dating in the long run and not give up at the first sign of a lull.
Learn from your experiences
When a promising contact ultimately comes to nothing, the disappointment can sometimes be great. Even then, there can be a tendency to withdraw and give up on the search for a partner for the time being. But there are still so many possibilities.
Instead, take a moment to process what you've experienced and learn from it. For example, if you were very bothered by a member's sluggishness, indicate on your profile that you like to be active. This way, with every contact, you move one step closer to success, regardless of whether it worked out with this candidate or not.
What to do if your inbox remains empty?
Is your inbox still empty? Haven't received any exciting messages for days? That's frustrating. Nevertheless, stay calm, don't take it personally, and above all, don't give up on your search for a partner.
Delayed responses
Not all of our members are online every day. Some may be on vacation or very busy with work. So don't despair if you don't receive an immediate response.
Temporarily unavailable
Some members take a step-by-step approach and focus on communicating with only one other member at a time. This may be unsatisfying if your message is stuck in a queue with such a member, but it's all the more rewarding when that person then turns their full attention to you.
Check your profile
If none of these reasons apply, you should check your online profile again.
Do you have a profile photo where your face is clearly visible?
Is your profile perhaps too incomplete?
Do you only respond with short, standard sentences?
Think of crisp, funny, detailed, and meaningful responses that spark curiosity and end your message drought.
