Understanding men: with 20 tips and 6 statements from experts
Who says women are complicated? Understanding men is a science in itself. But what is typical male behavior? What does it mean when he says “I love you”? And what do men really dislike about us women? This article offers you a little insight into the thoughts and feelings of the male gender.
Typical men – 8 things you should know about men
There are many clichés and prejudices about both men and women. Nevertheless, there is some truth in many of them. Remember the following 5 things and understanding men will be a piece of cake.
1. Men are hunters
Men want to conquer. But that only works if you give him the chance to woo you. Of course, you should openly show your interest, there's nothing wrong with that, but always give him enough leeway to convince you with his charm.
2. Men want to be winners
In terms of relationships, this means they want to make their partner happy. But often men don't know exactly how. This is where you come in: casually mention what would make you happy or what would make you happy right now. This will make him a winner and make you both happy! What more could you want?
3. Men don't like to ask questions
Men don't like to ask us women questions, especially when we're just getting to know each other. For them, questions are a sign of weakness and insecurity.
4. Men don't talk about their feelings
Understanding men means above all understanding their feelings. It's just a shame that most men don't want to talk about them. If you ask him about his feelings and don't get an answer, it doesn't mean he's not interested in you, he just doesn't want to talk about it so directly.
The more you press him, the more he will shut down.
5. Men are direct
While we women like to beat around the bush so as not to hurt anyone's feelings, men are a little more straightforward. They almost always say what they think. This can make them seem less empathetic, even though they usually don't mean to be harsh. So don't take it too personally when he makes a few snide remarks.
6. Men do NOT want to be your best friend
As a woman, don't expect men to be as understanding as your best friend. They can't and, more importantly, don't want to be. It's better to continue turning to your best friend with your women's issues; it's better for both of you.
7. Men like to use excuses
If a man wants to meet up with you, he'll make time for it! “My dog suddenly got sick!”, “I have to work overtime today!” or “There was a water pipe burst in my apartment!” If these excuses happen frequently, it's not a coincidence, but simply a lame excuse. Be honest with yourself and admit it: he's not interested.
8. Men are alpha animals
Men like to act strong, and they really like the fairy tale of the knight in shining armor.
In moments of need and female weakness, they want to rush to your aid heroically and protect their princess!
What do men like about women?
Blonde, brunette, or black hair? Tastes vary, that's clear. Nevertheless, there are a few basic things that men find attractive in women.
1. Naturalness
Of course, men love it when we women style and dress up for them. But if this seems artificial and fake, most men find it unattractive.
2. Self-confidence
This is not about appearing self-confident, but rather about self-love. Men like women who are at peace with themselves. They have a more positive aura and therefore appear more attractive. In addition, sufficient self-acceptance is also the basis for any functioning relationship.
3. Independence
Men like to show how strong they are or play the protector. But if a woman is totally dependent, they find that rather unattractive. Women who can get by without men and have both feet firmly on the ground radiate attractiveness and maturity.
4. Humor
Men and women agree on this. Hardly anything can be as attractive as a pleasant laugh. A bonus point: even when things get heated, humor can be helpful in quickly lightening the mood.
5. High heels
A bit blunt, but it's true! Men find high heels attractive on women! They are a sign of femininity and show off our figure. But be careful: this only applies if you can walk in the shoes, of course.
6. Special interests or hobbies
Whether it's tropical plants, knitting, or historical paintings from the 15th century, many men find women with special, unusual interests attractive. Even if they don't want to talk about it with you all the time.
6 typical things men say and what they mean
What does he mean by that? Why isn't he getting in touch? Understanding and interpreting men is sometimes really not easy. A translator for men would be helpful.
Until one comes onto the market, we have translated the most important things men say for you:
1. “What's wrong?”
If a man asks you this, he is genuinely interested in the topic and wants a clear answer from you. It's best not to respond with the typical “Nothing, nothing!” or “It's fine!”
2. “I'll call you on Friday at 3 o'clock!”
If he gives you a specific time and date, he means it and will definitely call you. You shouldn't take an vague “I'll get in touch in the next few days” or “I'll call you back” too seriously. He doesn't think much of it and it's quite possible that he won't call. If you call him and he doesn't answer or call back, then he's definitely not interested.
3. “Sure... I'll do it!”
If you ask a man to do something and he replies with “I'll do it...”, then be careful! While we women usually imply that the task will be done immediately, “I'll do it” is a very flexible time frame for men. He will do the task, but only when he thinks it's right.
4. “I love you!”
When a man says these three magical words, their meaning depends entirely on the context in which he says them. Said during sex, in moments of passion, he is saying that he loves your body and what you are doing at that moment. If you ask him about it later, he may relativize his statement or perhaps not even remember it. However, if his confession of love comes during a romantic conversation, then congratulations, because he really loves you!
5. “Yes” and “No”
On this point, we women can really learn something from men. While we women tend not to say what we actually want, men speak more clearly in this regard.
When they say “yes,” they mean “yes,” and when they say “no,” they really mean “no.”
6. “I don't want to jeopardize our friendship.”
Sorry, ladies, but the translation for this is: “I don't want a relationship, but I don't want to hurt you!”
What do men dislike about women?
Understanding men can be much easier if you know what they dislike. Here is an overview of the 6 biggest attractiveness killers:
1. Discussions:
We women are world champions at discussing things. Men don't like that at all. When they get tired of our miserably long lectures, they usually just tune out. If you want to reach a man, the key is to stay objective, keep it short, and then let it go!
2. Too much makeup
It's a cliché, but it's true! At least the majority of men find unnatural women with too much makeup simply unattractive.
3. Playing hard to get
Of course, men have a hunting instinct and like to “conquer” us women. So letting a man wait a little can certainly be helpful. But if you overdo it, it can quickly have the opposite effect: you come across as arrogant or even uninterested. So the rule here is: show confidence and play with him a little. But always make it clear that you like him and are interested.
4. Girls' nights
Shrill women, gossiping, and braiding each other's hair... if there's one thing most men can't stand, it's girls' nights. We women should definitely not let this spoil our fun and it's best to uninvite him in advance.
5. Talking badly about your ex
You might think that men like it when we women badmouth our exes. Wrong! Nobody likes gossiping sisters! It makes him feel that you could talk about him in the same way if you ever get into an argument.
What's more, constantly talking about your ex quickly gives the impression that you're not over him yet.
6. Control freak
Understanding men also means giving them enough space! Constant control, questions like “Where were you yesterday?” “Where are you going?” or “Who are you texting?” are things men can't stand.
Understanding men: it's not that difficult!
With a few little tips and tricks, understanding men is not as difficult as many women fear.
Don't just look at the differences, but also at the many things that men and women have in common. Because in the end, we all want the same thing: to make our partner happy.
And don't forget: for men, we women are at least as difficult to understand!
