Study shows: This is what men want in a relationship

What do men really want in a relationship? And what qualities do men find particularly attractive? LemonSwan has uncovered the answer to the question of all questions in a representative survey of the population. First of all, let's just say this: women and men are not as different as we might sometimes think. But read for yourself:

1. Similar values, interests, and the ability to laugh together

In a happy relationship, you don't always have to agree on everything—that would be really boring. Nevertheless, most singles consider it important that at least their basic attitudes are compatible. For example, 66 percent of single men say that sharing the same values and a similar worldview is an important foundation for a long-term happy relationship. Three out of four women (74 percent) agree.

And what do men want from their relationship when it comes to shared interests and hobbies? Here, too, men and women looking for a partner are pretty much in agreement. 65 percent of male and 64 percent of female singles believe that shared interests and hobbies bring people together in the long term and are therefore also an important basis for a long-term relationship.

However, they are not quite as unanimous when it comes to humor. While 59 percent of male singles want a similar sense of humor in their relationship, sharing laughter is even more important for female singles, at 67 percent.

2. Men want a relationship on equal terms

One in three men (33 percent) attaches particular importance to having an equal partnership on equal terms. They are looking for a woman who is on the same wavelength as them and knows what she wants. And why do men want a partnership on equal terms? 39 percent of single men say that they find it particularly attractive to have an equal partner. The old role clichés of women running the household and taking care of the children while men earn the money have long since become obsolete in the minds of most men. Of the men who are already in a relationship, half (50 percent) feel this way.

3. Sexual attraction is also important for a relationship

Although sex is not the most important thing for a long-term, happy relationship for many men and women, it is still important for the vast majority. Feeling close and sharing sensual moments together strengthens the bond in a relationship. More than half of men (55 percent) say that sexual attraction and desire for each other are important elements for a long-term, happy relationship.

Particularly interesting: women expressed this desire even more often than men (60 percent) in our study.

4. Men want stability in their relationships

Does nobody want to commit to a relationship anymore? Not at all! The results of our representative study paint a very different picture: 41 percent of all respondents stated that they have been happily in a relationship for more than 20 years.

And even single men who are still looking for their dream woman want this same stability in their future relationship. For 39 percent of them, stability is an important element of a happy partnership. 37 percent of single women feel the same way.

5. A balanced closeness-distance relationship in the partnership

What do men want from a good relationship? One in four single men (26 percent) also mention a balanced relationship between closeness and distance. Being both deeply connected to your partner and independent, doing your own thing, is not a contradiction. On the contrary: it shows that you trust each other. Twenty-four percent of women agree.

Conclusion: Ultimately, we all want the same thing

What men want in a relationship and what is important to them for a long-term happy partnership can, of course, vary greatly from man to man. Nevertheless, our study shows that there are definitely some principles that are important to most men in a relationship. And the best thing about it is that men and women are pretty much in agreement on most things.

Ultimately, we all want the same thing: to have someone by our side who loves us for who we are. Someone we can have fun with, but also talk to about serious issues, hopefully until the end of our lives.