The first date: These tips will make your meeting a success
We all know the feeling: after lots of nice messages and maybe a few phone calls, the first date is coming up. The excitement is huge. What should I wear? Where will we meet? What will we talk about? These are just a few of the many questions that go through your mind before a first date.
But don't panic! We'll give you the most important tips for your first date. From preparing at home to saying goodbye after the meeting. You'll ace the date!
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After the first meeting—when is the best time to get in touch?
Conclusion: With a few tips, your first date will be a complete success.
Before the date: Preparing for the first meeting
You've just arranged your first meeting and suddenly feel nervous? Don't worry, we all feel that way. Now it's time to keep a cool head and take a deep breath! With these tips, you'll be perfectly prepared for your date.
Where shall we meet? The right place for the first date
There are lots of options when it comes to choosing a location. How about taking the reins and suggesting a few places? Such initiative is guaranteed to go down well! So, what do you feel like doing?
1. My place or hers on the first date?
My place or hers? - We suggest: neither. Meet in the middle on neutral ground. How about coffee first? This is the perfect setting to get a first impression. You'll be in a lively place that you can easily leave at any time. This is a good option, especially if you don't know much about your date yet.
2. Spend your first date in nature
A long walk in the fresh air invigorates the mind and gives you plenty of topics to talk about: There is always something to discover that you can talk about. In the city, parks, lakes, or even canals are great places to go for a walk. Any silence is less noticeable while walking and can even be quite pleasant at times.
3. Discover treasures
A flea market can also be a great place for a first meeting: you can stroll around in a relaxed manner and discover a few treasures. In such an atmosphere, any initial nervousness will quickly disappear and conversation will flow more easily.
4. Adventure on a first date? Yes, please!
How about a visit to the local fair? Once you've taken a ride on the roller coaster, the adrenaline rush will make you forget your nervousness and you're sure to have an unforgettably fun evening.
5. Be attentive
If you've already talked to your date about their interests and preferences, think back to those conversations. Did your potential date ever mention a place they'd like to visit or find particularly beautiful? Suggest meeting there for your first date! Being attentive is always a good thing.
The perfect outfit for your first date – 4 tips
The place and time have been set, and the big day is finally approaching. Now it's time to answer the question of all questions: What should I wear? Hopefully, these 4 tips will help you:
1. Be yourself
The most important thing here is: don't wear something just to please your date. Of course, this is important on a first date, but the main thing is to be yourself. Don't buy a new outfit especially for the first date if you don't feel comfortable in it. Wear something that you feel really good in. This will automatically make you appear much more confident.
2. Outfit for the first date: how much is too much?
Elaborate hairstyles and high heels may look great, but an overly fancy outfit on a first date could cause confusion. Of course, it depends on the occasion, but an exaggerated appearance is not necessarily advisable, especially on a first date. Get ready in a way that makes you feel beautiful—that's enough :)
3. On your marks, get set, be natural!
This tip is especially for our female readers: leave the extra makeup in the closet. Of course, you want to look your best for your first date, but you don't need to hide under several layers of makeup to do so. Especially if you don't normally wear much makeup, you shouldn't do anything different for your date. By the next date at the latest, it will be obvious that you were pretending to be someone else.
4. And what should a man wear on a first date?
The same applies to men: wear a neat outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable. If you're unsure about choosing the right outfit, ask! The women in your circle, whether they're good friends or colleagues, will certainly be happy to help you with something like this. Don't be shy!
Finally! The first date is coming up
The day of your first date is finally here. You're probably pretty excited. Here are a few quick tips on how to make the perfect first impression, which topics of conversation are particularly suitable for a first meeting, and how to say goodbye successfully.
First impressions count: the dos and don'ts of a first date
Now it's getting serious—you're meeting your date for the first time and have probably already spent some time thinking about this very moment. A warm hug or a formal handshake? We'll tell you how to do it right:
Do's:
Greet your date with a warm hug! This will help you establish a friendly rapport right away and get your date off to a relaxed start.
Have you already written a lot and feel like you already know your date a little? Be brave and give them a little kiss on the cheek! Of course, this isn't for everyone, but if it feels right, go for it!
Don'ts:
A formal handshake? Probably not the right thing for a first date. After all, you're meeting because you find each other very likeable.
A casual handshake is rather out of place on a first date. It's more suitable for good friends.
A kiss on the hand? No, thank you. That era is long gone.
The right behavior—5 basic tips you should always keep in mind
How can I behave in the right way so that he or she will like me? Most people ask themselves this question before their first date. We can reassure you: as long as you remain yourself, you can hardly do anything wrong. Here are a few extra tips to make sure that nothing can go wrong:
Leave your cell phone in your pocket – constantly having your cell phone in your hand comes across as rude and shows disinterest.
Don't pretend to be someone you're not, stay authentic.
Be a good listener – your attention will pay off.
Honesty is the best policy – don't lie to make yourself look better.
Pay attention to your body language—no crossed arms or slouching—show an open posture.Gute Gesprächsthemen - 5 Tipps, um unangenehme Stille zu vermeiden
Are you panicking about awkward silences on your first date? Don't worry. We have five tips you can follow to keep the conversation flowing, as well as questions that are ideal for getting to know each other.
Start with small talk, which not only lightens the mood but is also an ideal way to break the ice. You can tackle more profound topics later.
Use the location. Let your surroundings inspire your conversation topics. If you're in a restaurant, ask about their favorite restaurants or favorite cuisine, for example. Or ask something about the neighborhood or area where you met.
Think of appropriate transitions to keep the conversation going. If you're talking about favorite restaurants, use that to lead into the topic of cooking.
Refer to details from previous messages or the online profile.
The topic of travel never gets boring and can provide a lot of input. Ask where your date has been and where they want to go next.
The date is coming to an end—how do I say goodbye properly?
Whether your date was amazing or terrible, ending a date is difficult, especially if it wasn't set for a specific time. What words can you find to signal the end of the date?
A: Was the date not your cup of tea?
Say that you don't see the point in meeting again. It doesn't matter if your date is very different from how they described themselves or if you immediately realize that there is no chemistry.
B: Was your first date enjoyable?
Then there was definitely chemistry. Tip: End it when it's at its best to keep the excitement going. Thank them for the great day/evening and tell them you'd like to see them again. A hug after a successful date not only feels nice, but is also a great way to say goodbye.
C: A goodbye kiss on the first date?
The date couldn't have gone better and the spark is definitely there? Go for it! If it feels right, there's no reason not to give them a goodbye kiss and a warm hug. If you're still unsure, try a little kiss on the cheek first.
After the first date – when is the best time to get in touch?
Was your date not only enjoyable, but also exciting? Now the question arises: who should get in touch first? And will your date even get in touch? When is the right time to get in touch?
To ease your nerves and anxiety right away: the sooner you get in touch, the more interested you appear. Waiting the well-known three days tends to show disinterest and leads to uncertainty on the other person's part. Of course, that doesn't mean you have to bombard your date with messages.
3 tips on how to get in touch after the first date:
Send a message that same evening, such as: “Hey, I really enjoyed the afternoon. I'd love to do it again soon.”
Call the next day and ask how your date's day was, and also tell them how much you enjoyed the date. This is a great way to start the conversation, and you can arrange a second date right away if the opportunity arises.
If you're not interested, please don't start ghosting. Be honest and at least send a message saying that the date was nice, but unfortunately the chemistry wasn't 100% right.
Conclusion: With a few tips, your first date will be a complete success
The first date is always associated with a lot of excitement, and many questions go through your mind beforehand. However, the golden rule is and remains: be yourself. Whether it's choosing your outfit, your makeup, or the content of your conversations, authenticity is guaranteed to go down best. So, don't worry too much and enjoy the butterflies in your stomach. We wish you every success on your first date.
