He's not getting in touch? Reasons & tips for dealing with the situation
He's not getting in touch? Many of us have found ourselves in this situation before: the first two or three dates went great. You were totally on the same wavelength, the evenings were filled with long conversations and wonderful moments. But even though you were sure he would get in touch, he hasn't. Of course, you feel uncertain in a situation like this. But the most important thing is to keep a cool head! How can you do that? We explain it in this article.
He's not getting in touch – 5 reasons for the sudden silence
1. He's really busy
That great date was a few days ago and you haven't heard from him since? Maybe he's just got a lot on his plate! A stressful week at work, a sudden illness, or other unforeseen circumstances could be demanding his full attention. If this is the case, he will surely get back in touch once the stressful phase is over.
2. He has commitment issues
You've met a few times and so far it's been great. The signs are slowly pointing to a relationship. But that could be what's scaring him off. Maybe he can't handle his own feelings or has recently gone through a painful breakup.
3. He feels restricted
Even if the first few dates went great, an excess of affection could scare him off. Especially when communicating via WhatsApp and other messaging apps, too many messages can quickly put pressure on him. Many men then tend to withdraw at first.
4. He doesn't contact you on his own
This can be irritating, especially if you don't know each other very well, but this behavior is no reason to panic. Maybe he has both feet firmly planted in life and has a demanding job, friends, and hobbies. People who are busy a lot and for long periods of time may not have as much time for their cell phones.
5. He's not interested
He doesn't get in touch anymore because he's not interested—of course, that can happen too. Maybe he was only interested in your dates for validation or to boost his ego. Or maybe he simply realized that the chemistry wasn't right on his side.
Here's what to do if he doesn't get in touch
1. Distractions are good!
Have a good time with your friends and take your mind off things. The most important thing is not to keep checking your phone. Distractions are good, and you won't have time to focus on him so much.
2. Be patient
Sometimes it can take a while to get a reply. The important thing here is to be patient and relax before bombarding him with messages and questions. Otherwise, he may quickly feel pressured.
3. Reach out to him
If you're waiting for a message after a great date, you should take the initiative yourself. The cliché that the man has to make the first move is long outdated these days. So just reach out to him!
4. Silence? Ask for an explanation
You've been waiting several days for a response and still haven't heard from him? Ask him directly, but politely, for the reason. Even if you're sad and frustrated, it doesn't help to start the conversation with accusations. That's not going to lead to an honest and constructive conversation.
You're sure—he's not going to get in touch again. Here's what to do next:
1. Important: Stay consistent
Even if he hasn't gotten in touch and you've been ghosted, it's important to consistently refrain from writing to him. This won't get you anywhere and will only continue to drive your mood down unnecessarily. Being rejected hurts your pride, but you now have clarity and can focus on other men who are genuinely interested in you and with whom you click right away.
2. Self-confidence is key
Please don't start asking yourself questions like “What did I do wrong?” or “Was I not good enough for him?” Because apart from negative feelings, such thoughts will get you nowhere. You should rather see it this way: if he doesn't want to get to know a woman as great as you, he's missing out.
3. He's not getting in touch? - Time to move on!
Now it's time to banish the question “Why isn't he contacting me?” from your mind once and for all. Stop worrying about a guy who doesn't want you. Think of the situation this way: a man who is so rude and unreliable had no place in your life anyway. You're better off without someone who doesn't even have the decency to give you an honest rejection.
4. What now? Time to look ahead!
If he still hasn't gotten in touch after a week or two, despite your polite inquiries, one thing is certain: this man was definitely not the right one for you. So now you can relax and focus on new, exciting dates.
Conclusion: He's not worth it if he doesn't get in touch
If he suddenly stops contacting you after one or even several great dates, your pride will naturally be hurt at first. But that's exactly when it's important to look ahead with confidence and not let disappointment take the wind out of your sails.
As mentioned before, you didn't need such an unreliable man in your life anyway. So, look ahead and enjoy your next dates!
