Is he serious? These 8 signs suggest he is!
You've met a new man with whom you could definitely see yourself getting serious, and everything is going great. But one question is still buzzing around in your head: Is he serious? Many women ask themselves this question until they are officially a couple. But how can you tell what your potential partner's intentions are? We've identified the most important signs and signals for you!
Is he serious? These 8 signs suggest he is
1. He thinks about the future!
Does he talk about going to a concert with you or says that you absolutely must accompany him to his favorite beach, even though it's the middle of winter? Someone who thinks so far ahead has no interest in a short-term fling. Making plans for the future together is a sign that he is really serious about you!
2. “I” becomes “we”
This may sound like something out of a romance novel, but the shift from “I” to ‘we’ is a sure sign that he sees himself with you. If he naturally includes you in his plans, you can confidently stop asking yourself, “Is he serious?”
3. He introduces you to his friends and family
All signs point to a serious relationship here! If he invites you to family gatherings and introduces you to his friends, it's clear that he's thinking about a relationship with you. So you should stop worrying about whether he's serious!
4. He is in touch around the clock
Your loved one sends you sweet “good morning” messages, often asks how you are doing, or simply calls you in the evening to hear how your day was. He would absolutely not do this if he wasn't totally into you and found you really interesting.
5. You have deep conversations
If you were just a quick fling for him, this wouldn't happen. But if he wants more with you, he will try to get to know you as well as possible, ask you questions about yourself, and also reveal intimate things about himself. By then at the latest, the question “Is he serious?” should have disappeared from your mind.
6. He wants to spend a lot of time with you
You just met yesterday and he's already asking if you'd like to meet up over the weekend? He can't get enough of you and, for him, you're anything but a quick fling. So if he wants to see you every day, it's a clear sign that he's serious about you.
7. He finds your flaws stunning
Do you have a gap in your teeth that you don't like, or do you think you have too much belly fat, and he finds that beautiful about you? Then you don't need to worry about the question “Is he serious?” anymore! Someone who loves everything about you despite your minor flaws is not someone who is just looking for a quick fling.
8. The whole world can see you together!
Whether in front of friends, in the city center, or at a party, he seeks physical contact with you, and things like holding hands are a matter of course for him. It's clear: this man is proud to be seen with you, and everyone can see that you are by his side. All signs point to a relationship!
These 4 signs indicate that he is not serious
1. He only contacts you when he wants something
When he does get in touch, it is usually late in the evening and he wants you to come over. This kind of behavior does not sound like a serious relationship at all. You should definitely not go along with his wishes and write this man off as quickly as possible.
2. No one is allowed to see you!
When you meet, preferably at home, and when you are out in public together, you might think you are casual acquaintances. Someone who behaves like this is definitely not serious about you and is most likely just looking for a quick fling.
3. Constantly coming up with new excuses? - He's not serious
After a date, he doesn't get in touch for days, or upcoming dates are canceled at short notice with vague excuses. This goes hand in hand with him only getting in touch when he wants something from you. It's crystal clear here—this man is absolutely not interested in you and, at best, wants to get you into bed.
4. His favorite topic is himself
Whether online when writing or in real life when meeting: he prefers to talk about himself and doesn't really want to know that much about you. When you do get a chance to speak, he hardly asks any questions or later doesn't remember any of the details you shared. Such a lack of interest is easy to interpret—he's not serious about you.
Checklist: If you recognize him here, he means business!
Are you still unsure whether things could get serious between you and, above all, whether your partner is serious about you? Then we have a little checklist for you: If you recognize yourself in many situations and can answer “yes,” things are looking good for you! He seems to have serious intentions and you can relax and enjoy getting to know each other.
Regular messages: Does he often write to you just to ask how you are or how your day was?
A good listener: Does he remember details from your conversations?
Small gestures: Does he occasionally do little things to make you happy or bring you small gifts?
Introducing you to friends: Have you already met his friends or has he said he will introduce you to them?
Plans for the future: Does he plan activities with you that are in the future?
Curious: Do you feel like he wants to know everything about you?
Gut feeling: With all the facts, signals, and signs, at the end of the day, it's also important to ask yourself: Do you have a good gut feeling about him?
Getting to know the family: Has he already introduced you to his family or said he will do so soon? This is a very clear sign.
He stands by you: Does he have no problem with public displays of affection?
Reliability: Is he genuinely sorry when he has to cancel on you?
We instead of I and you: Does he use the “we” form when talking about you to others?
Conclusion: Listen to signals, but also to your gut feeling
If you ask yourself the question “Is he serious?” during the getting-to-know-you phase, there are a few signs you can look out for. The most important thing, however, is that you have a good feeling and feel comfortable. Grab a good friend and tell her about the man you're getting to know. Conversations like this can really help you to see and interpret your own feelings and the relationship more clearly!
