Confident women - The big city comparison
Confident women – When you start looking for a partner, you are actively deciding to take control of your life and leave nothing to chance. This requires not only initiative, but in some cases also courage and self-confidence. But do men really always make the first move? In which cities do women take the lead, and where do the most self-confident single women live? LemonSwan took a closer look at 10 cities and got to the bottom of these questions.
Age and confident women
Taking the first step is never easy. When you're interested in someone, you get nervous and want to do everything right from the start. No wonder that can put you under pressure. Our analyses showed that in 70% of cases, it's actually men who write the first message. However, there seem to be significant differences in age when it comes to making initial contact. Women between the ages of 31 and 40 make every second initial contact and are therefore the most confident age group. But even in the 41 to 49 age group, confident women are more likely to take the initiative. A full 41% in this age group take the first step toward a relationship. There seems to be a clear difference only among women aged 60 and above. Around 80% leave it to the men to make the first move.
Women find themselves more attractive than men
Attractiveness plays a major role when looking for a partner. After all, pictures are often the first thing you see of a potential partner. A well-groomed appearance and appealing photos can therefore be a great advantage. But it's not just looks that make someone attractive! A confident demeanor, an interesting greeting, or a humorous first message can be just as appealing to others. Our evaluations showed that confident women generally rate themselves as more attractive than men do. Here, too, one age group of singles stands out in particular. Singles aged 31 to 40 describe themselves as “extremely attractive” on LemonSwan. A large proportion of men would describe themselves as “normal,” while an equal proportion of single women see themselves as “very attractive.”
Which city makes the first move?
Our analysis showed that there are also differences between cities in terms of who makes the first move. While women in Dortmund are generally a little more reserved, women in Leipzig are more likely to make the first move. 41% of women in Leipzig on LemonSwan write the first message.
Ranking of Germany's most confident singles
We wanted to find out in which cities women make the first move and where the most confident singles are to be found. Here are the results:
5 tips for more self-confidence when looking for a partner online
1. Make your profile attractive
The most important thing when looking for a partner is your profile. This is the first thing a potential partner will see. Take a little time and effort to choose pictures that show you looking your best. Tip: Retouched pictures or pictures with filters have no place here. Write a nice and interesting greeting that reflects who you are. With an attractive profile on LemonSwan, you will immediately feel more confident and your counterpart can respond to the information in your written texts. This creates great conversation topics right away.
2. Be brave!
Waiting forever for the other person to write can take a long time and be frustrating if no message comes. Don't waste time and opportunities, take the initiative! The other person may feel the same way you do.
3. Stand by your wishes and expectations
Don't compromise when it comes to your wishes and expectations for a relationship. Of course, a relationship only works if you are willing to compromise. But especially in the beginning, you should clearly express and communicate your wishes and expectations. That way, the other person knows right away where they stand.
4. Take the pressure off
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Keep reminding yourself that the other person is in the same situation as you. Try to replace your nervousness with fun and enjoy this exciting moment.
5. Don't take setbacks personally
When looking for a partner, there can sometimes be setbacks. Often, it doesn't work out right away the first time. Don't let that get you down and keep at it.
Conclusion: Have confidence!
Who dares to take the first step and who sees themselves as attractive varies greatly. Younger women in the north in particular seem to have a healthy self-confidence. But regardless of whether you consider yourself “very attractive” or “normal,” the important thing is to persevere, make an effort, and just go for it! Write your first message today.
